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Everything counts when building a relationship. You would only get one chance to make your first impression on the other party so you don’t want to blow it. According to this nine self-made millionaires and Advisors in The Oracles told us how they dress to make a good first impression.
First impressions is does not only involve your mode of dressing. So Enquired about the common mistakes people make that can immediately destroy a first impression and how those habits bad can be eradicated totally.
1. A poor handshake and no eye contacts
Like the firm handshake and looking people straight in the eye, the blazer had originally been a symbol of trust.
~Craig Brown
Barbara Corcoran said she had never hired anyone she did not trust, and she always forms her first impression of someone based on their eye contact. Eye contact produces the trust-building chemical oxytocin. We often times like people who look at us more, and therefore it is important to resist the urge to shyly look away when we meet someone new. So if you want someone to trust you on the first day you better look them straight in the eye.
A good handshake is also key. It conveys confidence, it is not all about firmness, it’s about making sure the skin between your thumb and forefinger connects with the other person’s hand in the same spot. That connection signals that you’re confident and trustworthy.”
—Barbara Corcoran, founder of The Corcoran Group, podcast host of “Business Unusual,” investor on “Shark Tank.”
2. Being dismissive.
Jay Leno advised on how Kindness can go a long way. He still remembered all the show business folks who were used to be mean to him in his early career, as well as those ones who took his hand and gave him advice.
He sighted an experience with is friend who was a big celebrity, and a fan approached him for an autograph. He noted that the autograph was given to the fan without any eye contact to even recognize their presence, Jay noted the hatred on his fan’s face.”
You can never forget any act of kindness, but you often hear things like, ‘I got in an elevator with so-and-so, and they didn’t even say hi.’ Now they hate that person for the rest of their life.
—Jay Leno, comedian, star of CNBC’s “Jay Leno’s Garage,” former host of NBC’s “The Tonight Show. Follow him on Facebook and Instagram.
3. Failing to ask good questions.
One of the best ways to build rapport and credibility quickly, ask open-ended questions when you meet a new person who is not in your line of business or someone you are meeting for the first time.
For example, find out how the other person got started in their industry or ended up in their job role or city. Ask about their visions as entrepreneurs Ask about their goals and dreams to see how you can help them, with questions like, ‘Where do you want to be in 10 years?’
You’ll get to know the person better, communicate that you’re thoughtful and curious, and grow your knowledge.”
—Marla Beck, co-founder and CEO of Bluemercury, creator of M-61 Skincare and Lune+Aster cosmetics.
4. Neglecting your reputation.
Remember that your reputation is everything. You build your personal brand through everything you do, whether big actions or small decisions, and that brand will stay with you throughout your career.
~Jan Fields
“A first impression doesn’t start the second you meet someone. It begins with your reputation, your reputation determines the social standing of a person in the society which you only build over time with a performance above-average. Then when you finally meet that person, your reputation precedes you.”
—Markus Hetzenegger, founder and CEO of NYBA Media GmbH. follow him on Instagram, LinkedIn and Facebook.
5. Showing signs of disinterest.
Natalie noted that begin an interesting is not enough. You always have to be interested about people. Why? Because what really drives a person is themselves. So make your conversation about them.
Ask what they do, why they do it, and what they want to accomplish. Save your pitch on how you can add value to their lives for future encounters, which you’ll get if you don’t blow the first one.
And don’t forget to give them your business card, ideally with your picture on it so they have a way to follow up with you. But remember: It’s ultimately your job to follow up with them.”
—Natalie Workman, co-founder of Cardone Ventures for Women. Follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook and YouTube.
6. Taking first, giving later.
Humility and generosity allows you to build a loyal community around you. It’s a give-and-take in the business world, but we must first learn to give. The more you can offer your services, knowledge, connections, and time to others, the more they will give in return.
—Ashley Alderson, founder and CEO of The Boutique Hub and Boutique. Style, cancer survivor, motivational speaker, host of “Boutique Chat.” Follow her on on Instagram and LinkedIn.
7. Failing to showcase your strongest assets.
Your enthusiasm will inspire others to move forward with actions that bring rewarding achievements.
Steve Brunkhorst
Alon said he is enthusiastic in nature, but he used to hold back because he want to appear ‘cool’ — until he realized how his enthusiasm can actually be one of his most valuable assets.
He noted how important it is to identify your strongest skills and showcase them proudly. If you’re an eloquent speaker, speak often. If you’re a great listener, ask lots of questions. But you also need to avoid overemphasizing them.
—Alon Rajic, CEO of Finofin, which operates Money Transfer Comparison, a leading authority on the comparison of money transfer providers.
8. Speaking before you listen.
Craig illustrated that if he met someone new Years ago, he would act like he had valuable insight and quickly steer the topic toward what he could offer. He had learnt to listen more over time and only speak when the timing is right and when he had something genuinely valuable or insightful to say.”
—Craig Handley, co-founder of Listen Trust and author of “Hired to Quit, Inspired to stay.”
9. Trying too hard.
“The poet Maya Angelou once said, ‘People will never forget how you make them feel.’
Andrea agreed on the validity of the poet. She shared the great opportunities she has been offered in the first meetings because someone ‘had a good feeling’ about her. Her strategy is be the most authentic self, instead of trying too hard to impress them (which is something she has seen so many people do).”
—Andrea Callanan, musician-turned-entrepreneur; voice, confidence, and success coach, author of ”You Are Meant for More,” and founder of employee engagement company Inspire Me. Follow her on Facebook and Instagram.
